Dating is hard. Diabetes is difficult. Dating AND diabetes...now that is complicated. Having diabetes is a daily learning process and things are constantly changing; some days you don’t even know which way is up.
You have spent weeks, months, years, sometimes even decades learning the ins and outs of your diabetes and how it affects every single aspect of your life. Balancing a full time life plus diabetes is exhausting; so where does a significant other fit into all of this?
Where do you even begin incorporating another person into your life?
How do you even begin to incorporate them into your diabetes?
How much is too much?
There are so many things to tell them, but where to start?
Explain emergency situations: begin by creating an emergency plan with your significant other in case something happens. Explain the signs and symptoms of high and low blood sugars and what can happen if your blood sugar gets too high or too low. Write step-by-step instructions for an emergency situation and provide them with emergency phone numbers.
Describe your day-to-day life: Yes, every single day is different, but explain what you need to do in order to stay alive everyday. Explain that things change and that so many things can affect your blood sugars. Tell them the simplified version of how you manage your diabetes on a daily basis.
Explain the ups and downs: Share your emotions and be honest. Share your experiences with them and how diabetes can affect your mood and the many other frustrations and disappointments that come with diabetes. But don’t forget the positives; share the good times. Share how diabetes has become a part of you and how it has helped shaped you into the strong, courageous, independent, and fierce person you are. Let them in. Help to create an understanding of your world.
Be honest with them: Don’t sugarcoat it. Be real with them. The more real you are, the more they will learn to love who for who you are, diabetes and all.
Ask them questions: Figure out how much they want to be involved in your diabetes. Ask them what they want to know. Involve them as much as they want to be involved.
Allow them to ask questions: Make sure that they are comfortable asking you questions. Just like you, they are learning. You are going to forget to explain things and they will have curiosities about things you are doing. Be open. Don’t make them feel stupid for asking you questions.
And don't forget to use The Spike App to send your insulin reminders and food suggestions!